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beChange | WHY?

I believe that everyone feels alone or questions themselves from time-to-time. When it gets bad, it is akin to losing one's MoJo...where you doubt your instincts and find a bit of paralysis-by-analysis setting in.

In baseball it manifests itself as a slump. Pretty soon you are standing at the plate and the ball looks really small...almost like a BB. And because the ball appears so impossibly small, you begin to believe the only way you'll ever hit the ball is if you begin to 'guess what pitch is coming next.' This then leads to BIG SWINGS...at curveballs...or LATE SWINGS...on fast balls. Net/net you look ridiculous! And the biggest thing...you LOOK lost...and everyone in the grandstands can see it!

This happens in relationships as well. You start to lose your MoJo and doubt yourself in your relationship. You doubt the other person's feelings...your own contributions emotionally and intellectually...whether the person is still 'into' you...and you get a bit needy. OK, needy is not good. Life is hard enough to make ourselves happy...when someone else relies on you for their happiness as well...trouble is on the horizon!

At work you find that you feel a bit adrift and afraid of making a decision. You don't trust yourself enough to admit this simple formula exists:
  • Every decision will either be right or wrong
  • If you make a bad decision...you will invariably fix it
  • If you make a good decision...hoorah for you!

However, you are afraid of making a mistake because you've lost your MoJo...which then leads to countless meetings that lack productivity because a decision is not going to result anyhow...and a lot of discussion and very little 'doing.' All the while you are spinning your wheels, wasting other people's time and ultimately just collecting a check for getting very little done.

WHAT DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH ANYTHING YOU ASK? Just know this...everyone feels this way sometimes...not just you! Everyone feels adrift sometimes...they just might hide it better or you don't see the signs so well. Everyone lacks MoJo at times...and questions everything they do...

THIS IS WHY IT IS SO IMPORTANT TO TELL PEOPLE HOW YOU FEEL...and to be kind to them! Everyone looks like they are doing great...however that kind word or gesture can be just the thing that helps someone get a little of their MoJo back...and reverse the tide on everything mentioned above.

MoJo = Confidence in decisions...actions...words...gestures...

Instead of being afraid...beChange and help people keep their MoJo just by being a little bit more open and kind to them!

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